Effective Mainstream Crisis Tool
The National Domestic Violence Hotline is a 24/7 crisis tool that I found to be useful in many different ways. They are NOT a mandatory reporter, they will NOT call the police. Here are a few, but feel free to inquire about others that may come to mind:
1) Identifying abuse types from your specific experience. I found great comfort in spewing my seeming nonsense and having a trained professional validate that experience. I was relieved as they unraveled my confusion and gave me direction by putting a name to my torture.
2) Talking to someone who shows compassion. As I began to climb out of DV, I encountered many challenges - some of those were my circle not understanding the methods I had to use to keep myself and children safe. Being able to pick up the phone and talk with a human really helped keep me grounded.
3) Finding other DV resources you may not know of. I mentioned changing challenges in my journey. Sometimes I would call them and tell them what was happening and they would tell me the phone number, hours, usage, etc., for something to assist me with that challenged that I didn't know existed. They have the up-to-date information for DV resources for every state in the country!
4) Safety planning guidance. 75% of DV-related murders happen when the victim is leaving or is already separated from the abuser. The most dangerous time frame is within the first 18 months of the separation.
I found them to be very adept in looking at your specific situation: whether you're married, have kids or not, own the home/apartment or not, have biological kids with the abuser, are working, share a vehicle, etc., and be able to help brainstorm on the best ways to maintain your safety in your specific circumstance.
Call The National Domestic Violence Hotline 24/7 at 800-799-7233 OR visit their website to chat online at thehotline.org.