I'm a Black woman who discovered that my marriage relationship was not a relationship at all; it was domestic violence (DV). Not the kind of DV we're accustomed to seeing, the sneaky types - economic, sexual, spiritual, verbal, and emotional - channeled strategically through coercive control. Nearly every mainstream resource that was supposed to help me and my girls failed us - I didn't act like the "typical" victim. The 15 years it took from me were all a waste unless I could change that narrative for someone else.
I have 10+ years of experience creating and delivering curriculum, have studied, leveraged, and helped individuals and teams leverage their CliftonStrengths®. My greatest gift is taking my life experiences and converting them into educational currency. My greatest joy is using that gift to create #permission for my Black sisters as the only agency in the state of Iowa focused on doing this just for us.
Victim Identification & Triage
Beloved, the Black woman has an experience like no other woman in America. She is called upon by all to show up and protected by none. She has had to develop a certain level of resiliency that makes it hard for her and society to view her as a woman in need.
That's why it was so important to me to create solutions that women like me could access, which we did and are expanding daily through Courageous Access.
Unfortunately, the Black community - its churches, its community centers, its families - dont understand what the Black woman needs during and after this. Mainstream victim services don't believe Black women are victimized when we authentically show up.
That's why it was crucial to me to provide training in these centers of trust or centers frequently accessed to help them understand, serve, and support more appropriately. I have done and will continue to do so through Courageous Fire, LLC.
When I come into these spaces, know I am providing this training in a much-needed and previously unrepresented form.
Beloved, this is where you can reach out to me. If you've seen a service that you'd like to utilize and want more information than is on the site, tell me here. If you simply want to learn more about how you can partner with me, tell me here. I can't wait to hear from you.